Relationships are simple, but not always easy. Navigating relationships can often feel confusing because you need to balance someone else’s thoughts and feelings with every decision or step through the relationship, while maintaining your own. Sometimes, however, when at least one of the members of the relationship begins to act as if they are the spokesman for the relationship or that they have power over the others or are adopting a “My Way or the Highway” approach, everyone within the Relationship can be negatively affected.
Whether the partnership is professional, romantic or friendly, if it is healthy, there is positive components that holds the weight of the binding. Some of them are respect, compassion, security and understanding.
Respect is the sense of value for someone or their skills or qualities. In a relationship, it’s all three. Sometimes respect is acceptance without compromise. Is respect healthy boundaries. Respect is a balanced playing field. Sometimes your partner does something without you and realizes that he is as individual as your partner. Sometimes there is control so that equality can flourish. It puts your needs before your desires.
Compassion is deep compassion and the desire to help. It listens before you speak and think before you do it. Compassion puts others first, but in a good relationship it is important that they return the favor. It is the forgiveness of your past and the understanding that it has led you to your current place. Compassion is too mutually beneficial. Studies have shown that compassion training lasting several weeks has had a positive impact on the daily well-being of the participants.
Security is freedom. It is free from danger, ridicule, doubt or fear. It is security and knowledge of progress without aggression or harm. It is trust and confidence in intimate or personal matters. Security is also respect in agreement and conviction. It is the roof over the partnership that protects it from harm without denying the existence of what is harmful. It offers protection to those in and around the partnership. In romantic relationships in particular, security of attachment – deep trust or dependence on those close to you – is crucial to maintaining a successful relationship builds the framework so that a family continues to grow.
Understanding is a state of interdependence, which means that each person can live in the relationship and be in harmony with the others. It is communication and collaboration – where the best solution is found – instead of compromises – where nobody gets exactly what they want. It’s about finding out where your life fits your partner’s life and how you both can improve each other’s lives Respect for autonomy. The motivation theory for relationships explains how the need for kinship and the satisfaction of this need are sufficient to build successful relationships. Instead, it is only considered successful to understand relationships in which autonomy is experienced and provided.
If these pillars break or are missing, the weight of the bond between them in the relationship can break down. Sometimes this can only lead to an unfortunate relationship that ends with both parties getting upset about the others. However, sometimes more serious problems such as manipulation tactics or even abuse can occur.
Manipulation is a generic term for many toxic, truth-changing behaviors in relationships. The victim can feel depressed, anxious, and paranoid. Some ways to determine if you are being manipulated are …
You constantly apologize, even for things that are not your fault.
Your partner does not answer your questions directly.
Problems in your relationship are never completely (if at all) resolved, or you struggle with the same things.
Gaslighting is the term used to describe the manipulation tactic in which the victim is accused by his partner and thinks that the reason for his own misfortune or concern about the relationship is his own doing, even though his partner is the one who manipulates. It can make the manipulated question your own health. In many cases, the gas lighter makes the victim believe that it is manipulative or that it is the cause of all problems in the relationship. It can be difficult to determine whether the gas lighting is really done by yourself. Therefore, it is always a good idea to speak to a therapist if possible. However, some signs of gas lighting are …
To say something that the gas lighter later denies having ever said.
Never be able to provide details of how they feel you have wronged them. The relationship is just “bad” or you “ruin” the partnership.
Get jealous easily.
Trivialize how you feel.
Hide things from you and then deny their knowledge of them.
Stonewalling is another manipulation tactic in which someone cuts off the contact (partially or completely) to avoid responsibility or responsibility for their actions. Similar to gas lighting, the victim can feel uncomfortable, powerless and stuck.
If you think you are in danger (mentally or physically), it is important to get help immediately. Find a friend you trust, speak to a professional or call them National hotline for dating abuse.
There are many different types of abuse, including emotional, physical, verbal, sexual and financial, and culturally. It is important to learn what distinguishes normal, healthy arguments from abuse and to identify the warning signs of abuse. It is important to understand that relationships that have one or even some of these signs may not really be abusive. in the some casesPeople who are familiar with abusive relationships may have difficulty identifying their own abusive behavior or ending abusive relationships. Talking to a professional is the most official way to diagnose your relationship.
Notice missing columns of healthy relationships that have already been mentioned. Missing columns do not always mean that the relationship is abusive, but it can sometimes be a good warning.
Your partner never takes responsibility or guilt for his actions and directs the blame onto everyone or whatever he can.
Support healthy relationships. If your partner keeps putting down your ambitions or ideas, it can lead to abuse.
Harm you or your loved ones.
Hold or want to have power over you and your actions.
Trying to maintain power over someone in a relationship, no matter how much, whether by limiting their autonomy, enforcing a “My Way or the Highway” approach, or undermining their goals and progress, never ends well in the relationship for either . Marriages in which both partners allow and Accept the influence of their peers tend to be more successful, healthier, and happier.
Understand that there is a relationship between all of them, none of whom have more power than the others. In a professional environment, you may have more authority to make professional decisions, but that shouldn’t lead to more power in the relationship itself. Healthy relationships show justice and equality, as well as the combined ability to solve problems they face.
Laura Johnson grew up in the northwest suburbs of Chicago and is passionate about creating and communicating. Whether through words or images, she strives to expand her knowledge and experience in the world of communication, connecting with as many as possible.