I struggled with fear a lot during my time at university. Although I could still achieve a lot during that time, fear made things much more difficult. I would like to use this article to share my university anxiety experience. Although I am talking about my own experiences in this article, each experience is different. However, I hope this can help others better understand what it is like to struggle with anxiety or other mental health issues.
The main thing I found was that dealing with fear can be mentally stressful and felt like an extra burden that I had to bear all the time. It was a barrier I had to overcome in almost everything, even small things like getting up. I can be very productive most of the time if I give it up, but there were times when my anxiety turned out to be an initial barrier that I had to overcome before I could start being productive. For me, fear was associated with persistent, stressful thoughts and an overactive brain. Combine that with an extremely busy schedule that comes with studying, and there were times when my brain literally couldn’t take it anymore. Even so, there were times when I saw mental exhaustion as a sign of a busy schedule and something normal at university, which meant that I sometimes denied that my anxiety weighed heavily on me.
The worst part of my fear was that it was difficult to see the light of the tunnel at times. I’ve always believed and hoped that there would be a time when the fear would completely go away, and indeed there were moments when the fear did not affect me. Even so, there were also moments that triggered my anxiety, which was annoying and frustrating. One thing I’ve learned over time is that fear won’t go away completely, but you can still find ways to deal with it effectively and become the best version of yourself. This change in attitude from hoping that my fear would go away completely to assuming that my fear would always be there, but I was able to find ways to deal with it effectively, made a world of difference.
I also found it very difficult to open up about my fear to others. I know everyone says it’s always best to talk about your problems, but sometimes that’s easier said than done. For me, I’ve always had difficulty talking about my fear with people who couldn’t relate to it, mainly because of the fear that I would be judged and viewed differently. I also had the feeling at the time that dealing with my fear was my own problem and not that others would interfere and that it would be more productive for me to deal with it alone. While this approach allowed me to take responsibility for the problem, which actually worked well most of the time, it also meant I was bottling things. The advice I would give here is that everyone deals with fear differently. Some will be like me and take care of it themselves as much as possible, while others will talk about every little problem they face. Provided the approach really helps the individual deal with the problem, there is no wrong approach to dealing with it.
Despite all of the challenges and struggles I faced with my fear, what I have learned from it is what I think about when I look back on my experiences with fear at university. Although the fear sometimes made it harder to achieve my goals, there were many positive things that came out of it. For example, fear taught me that I can only truly appreciate the good days through incredibly bad days. Additionally, I remember seeing fear as a challenge that I wanted to overcome, which made me even more motivated and determined to be successful. That’s why I never wanted anyone to feel sympathy for me as I wanted to use my fear to prove to myself that I could handle any challenge I was given. While fear was extremely difficult to deal with, there were some useful things that will help me move forward.
Although the fear hasn’t completely gone, I can cope with it much better now than before. One tip I would give readers from my experience is to reach out to your friends and family, even if you have a slight doubt that they might have problems. In my case, a lot of my struggles have been invisible to other people, but it was the wonderful friends and family members who took the initiative to reach them that made a huge difference. I agree that we all have busy schedules, but reaching out can just involve a simple text message asking you every now and then how someone is doing that takes up just a minute of your day. Another piece of advice I would give to someone struggling with anxiety or other mental health issues is to take to heart the fact that despite the challenges you are currently facing, you are doing your best. Dealing with a mental health problem can be stressful. Even as you try to cope with it, you are showing that you are extremely resilient, which is a really important skill in life.
Hello, I am Niraj! I am a third year student at the University of Warwick studying math, business research, statistics and economics. Having suffered from anxiety issues during my studies, I know the various mental health problems university students face and how difficult it can be. So I want to raise awareness of various aspects of mental health and wellbeing and help as many people as possible by sharing my own experiences.