I was a little discouraged last week. To be fair, I think a lot of people were. There is a lot to be discouraged and it seems like it comes from all over the world. In January, I actually wrote a post about overcoming a difficult time. That’s right in January. In the United States. Maybe I should have saved this advice for another time. But as I thought about this post, I realized that one of my keys to getting through a difficult time is pushing through, but I’ve never elaborated on that idea so I want to build on it today.
Another way of looking at “pushing through”
Up until a few years ago, I thought that “enforcing” was one of the most unhealthy, toxic phrases anyone can use to describe their health. In a way, it can be. There is one very unhealthy aspect of this phrase where “asserting yourself” means ignoring and pressing down on everything negative in your life so that you don’t have to deal with it mentally or emotionally. If you haven’t been exposed to any other uses of this phrase before, listen to me! I know why you’re skeptical – me too – but I also know why enforcing it can actually be healthy if you get it right.
It doesn’t have to be forever
My best enforcement advice came from someone telling me to take a quick look at things. You said enforcing doesn’t have to be something you do for years. In fact, they found it much easier to assert themselves for hours or even minutes. It also changes your relationship with the feelings that you may avoid. Some people push things through indefinitely so that they never have to deal with that specific thought, feeling, or feeling. That’s what I thought. But now I know that for a couple of hours or a couple of days I am not avoiding the situation, just making sure that I am in a safe place when dealing with these feelings. Come on with it. By changing the way we see this idea of ”enforcing” we can work to have a better relationship with our emotions.
I know there will be days when this is not possible. Chances are these moments are rare and you won’t be able to prevail. Mental disorders can make a number on anyone. And while I hope this advice will not be unsuccessful for most of you, I can see that this mindset is not always the right one. As with any aspect of mental health, what works perfectly for one person may not work for another. It is therefore important to recognize this and act accordingly.
Whether you’re discouraged because our world is on fire (literally and figuratively) or because your brain isn’t too friendly, I hope you will prevail if you can. It sounds daunting trying to make it through to next year, month, or even next week, but pushing through could mean getting to the next minute, the next moment. When it comes to mental wellbeing, sometimes that’s all we can get, and it can be anything we need. I wish you all the best this month!
What is your experience with the expression “enforce”? Is it positive or negative? Why or why not? Let me know in the comments!