I had a bad day recently (that’s what I call depression and anxiety). Even a few bad days as the remaining effects of dealing with depression can last in a uniquely difficult way. You can also call them bad mental health days if you want to be more specific. In any case, this happened and I felt powerless to stop it. But after the storm there was silence, and during this time I try to collect my thoughts, process what happened and gain insight into that particular episode. It happened a few months ago and I survived this moment differently. But at that moment I needed another memory and got it (note: it’s the title of the post!)
I was reminded that this moment, this breakdown, whatever you want to call it, did not ruin my years of progress. I had to hear it then and I think we all do it at some point when we are in a mentally vulnerable state. It’s like everything else in life, isn’t it? If we don’t achieve what we set out to do, does it mean that all this work has been wasted, that it means nothing? To use a sports analogy: I lost some championship games in my time (some more significant than others), but did that undo the progress I made as a player and the progress we made as a team? Absolutely not.
But this idea seems impossible to remember in these difficult moments, even if it sounds like a day. When intrusive thoughts prevail, they feel that they control every aspect of our brain, and we have to fight like hell to fight them. We constantly remember ideas like this A day with poor mental health will not undo the progress we have made – is important to maintain a healthy mindset.
So I ask you to reread the title of this post. Do you see it. Understand it. Process it as you need it. But do you know that even in your worst moments you have made progress, grown, put effort and worked your butt out to become the saneest person possible.
I’m honest – it’s not my instinct to think that way. Of course, I’m inclined to be optimistic about everything in this world except myself, and I needed people to help me convince myself of ideas like this. I say this to tell you that when I ask you to think differently or to do things differently, I also speak to myself. I walk this street with you and there is more than enough space to share the space. So we’re going to try and see what we can do. Because a day of poor mental health won’t reverse the progress I’ve made on my mental health journey, and I’ll keep saying it until it lasts.